Time-Wasters

Time wasters, they seem to be everywhere.
I am getting a lot of complaints recently from the girls I had recruited to the webcam site that I'm working for, about men that waste their time. They talk to them about subjects that are not related to sex (i.e. TV shows, the weather), send them a lot of messages saying "you look gorgeous", or "interest" in what the girl will do for them in private. They are not intending to pay, they are there just to talk to the girls because they are bored and lonely, and most of them are miser, not poor.
Why do they interest in girls that they do not intend to pay?
They know that the girls are there to make money and not just for fun.
Why do dogs chase motorbikes that they don't intend to drive?
Apparently  it's like window-shopping, the men in the website are looking, inspecting, thinking "what if?".  They perceive the girls in the website as products, without considering what they might feel.
I am the one who later hear how they feel. First of all, they feel disappointed. Most of them really need this money, and they are upset as they don't get it. Second, their self-esteem is hurt. The girl experience the situation as 'a lot of people see me but no one wants me', which makes them feel not good enough.

To be honest, I know how they feel. as a freelancer I get many mails from people asking about my work experience, rates, etc. and less than 50% of them actually hire me to work. In the beginning I was thinking that maybe I'm not good enough, or too expensive, but now after I have enough experience I know that it's not me- it's them.
They are window-shopping my services and wasting my time.

This is a personal request for whoever reads this blog- If you are only window shopping someone's service, tell them ahead.

branding separation

I'm a performer occasionally. I went to a lecture about branding.
Should porn be one of my attributes? you know, "that sexy musician who works in the industry".
Well, it is unique, something that deffer me from other performers in my field. I know that uniqueness is the first rule of branding- "what do I have that others don't".
The second thing is, I have a lot of exposure as a performer, and if I use this exposure I can get more customers, and vice verse- I can use my customers to get more exposure as a performer.
On the other hand, I'm trying to separate my public Identities as much as I can. One is the serious marketer, and one is the cool performer. It is good if you don't want your customers to be confused.
People are looking for a clear and singular message. It's not a nice thing to say, but let's admit it, most of the people are simple minded.
I have 2 email addresses,  one with my full name and the signature "SEO expert" and the other with my stage name and the signature "real name- a.k.a stage name".
It also make my life easier because I can easily understand which letter is directed to which identity.

and the most important question- when I meet new people, which identity should I show them first?

I just want to note that I'm sane, I don't have a split identities condition, and I'm the same person when I do both. after all, we all act different in different social situations.

The Morality of Pimping

As I mentioned in the last post, I work in recruiting girls to a webcam site.
My job is basically to convience attractive girls that stripping in front of a camera is not only morally OK, and doesn't make them sluts, but also, fun, easy, and pays well.
I'm not really lying to them, it is easy, phisically. The work is done from home in their own conditions, and doesn't involve any kind of physic effort. There is no strict discipline, and the hours are totally flexible.
The hard part is mental. No, not the part of pretending to be attracted to a horny old men, it is not different than any costumer service job, a waitress will also pretend to like her most annoying customers in order to get more tips. A stripper told me once that for her it's like acting in a show.
It comes after a few times you do it, the realisitaion that hundreds of people that you don't know have seen you naked, the paranoia when you walk in the street, anyone can be a customer. The self-digust.

In the beginning I didn't have this dilemma- I'm giving these girls an option, not forcing them, and every one understand that this is not an "innocent" job so they need to do their own thinking.
It started when a woman from the philippines sent me a message according to a job I published on a job seekers website. She wrote to me that she is a single mother, looking for a job that will enable her to raise her daughter, without being separated from her. It reminded me of all the philippine foreign workers in the country I'm coming from. Most of them are women going to nurse old people, in a foreign country, leaving their children with their grandparents, in a high risk of being abused or trafficed for prostitution. All that for a chance of sending their family enough money for food and education.
This case raised the dilemma: am I giving a mother a chance to raise her child safely or am I abusing he weakness of a woman in distress?
That made me think in general about the ethic part of the job.

Am I abusing  their innocence by telling them the better half of the truth or using legitimate marketing techniques?

like the matrix, but on reversed direction

Do you know this scene from the movie Matrix when they are looking on a numeric code but they get used to interpret it as pictures, like the woman in the red dress?
For me it happens backwards. I see porn and and interpret it to numbers, how high is it ranked in the download chart? how much did they pay the cast? etc.
My boyfriend can get aroused by porn. Most of my male friend do (my female friends as well but they won't admit it).
I can't.
Hi, I am a worker on the most rear part of the adult websites industry.
I do SEO for adult websites, I recruit models for a webcam site, I tried for about 2 days to be a webcam model myself, I was a bartender in a stripclub.

I hate and love the industry at the same time.
I think about the industry too much.

the woman in the red dress- is she only numbers?